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You don’t even bring a man around your son. You only know this dude for a few months and you’re bringing him around your kid? Who does that? Nobody does that.” Ciara pointed out the obvious double standard, noting that she was around Future’s other three children very early in buy canada goose jacket cheap their relationship.Despite the fact that Ciara reportedly called off her wedding to Future because of his infidelity, and the fact that she went on to marry Russell Wilson, Ciara was criticized by celebrities (notably T.I. who ironically lives in the same house with his wife’s daughter by another man) and common folk alike who were outraged that canada goose she would dare have the love Canada Goose Online of her life involved with her son. canada goose deals Oh, and they even accused her of being bitter. The misogynist criticisms reached its zenith this week, though, when the 31-year-old singer announced she and her husband are expecting a child. Several users took to Twitter to call Ciara a “hoe” for being pregnant just months after her wedding.Yes, you read that right.A woman with one child, who found the strength to leave a relationship, which was clearly unhealthy canada goose clearance for her, is a hoe for marrying a man and conceiving a child with him. Or rather, a Black woman with one child, who found the strength to leave a relationship, which was clearly unhealthy for her, is a hoe for marrying a man and conceiving a child with him.Apparently, the fact that Ciara and Russell Wilson seem blissfully happy together, the fact that Baby Future seems to adore his stepfather, and the fact that having children with your spouse is an expectation of marriage do not matter.To some, Canada Goose Outlet Black women are not afforded the luxury of finding a better relationship. Black women are not worthy of magical love stories. Successful love stories for Black women are marked solely by our ability to endure suffering and continue to stand with partners who demean, abuse and cheat on us with grace. Canada Goose Parka Some feel Ciara should have stayed with Future, who despite having at least four children with as many women and being a staple canada goose coats on sale on the blogs for his many flings with various women—none of whom are the mothers of any of his children (just last week US Weekly reported the rapper had slept with retired NBA player Scottie Pippen’s wife)—is not called a hoe.Women are constantly pushed to find a good man, one who’s a provider and treats them like a queen. Ciara heeded that advice, finding a man who has the financial means to provide everything she wants and needs and a man who eagerly professes his love for her. Still, that is not enough and too much all at once. Ciara can’t win because the game is misogynoir.When Black women take a chance on men like Future, we’re settling for less. We’re choosing bad boys who will inevitably break our hearts. We’re told we must demand more. Then when we do just that, we’re labeled hoes. Those who pull out the biased “70 cheap Canada Goose percent of Black children are born to single mothers” statistic, disregarding that those children must also be born to single fathers, in any discussion of canada goose replica the state of the Black community, rushed to lambaste Ciara for providing her son with a stable father Canada Goose sale figure. They’d be much happier to see this Black woman–like the ones they complain are solely responsible canadagooseoutletcanada for the amount of children raised by single mothers–stay single so they can continue to bolster the narrative that Black women are tainted once we have a failed relationship that produces children.Love and happiness are not experiences society is prepared to watch Black women have. Ciara was never supposed to find her fairytale. Russell Wilson was never supposed to see value, love, appreciate and exalt a Black woman, one like Ciara who loved herself too much to stay in a relationship that wasn’t giving her what she Canada Goose online needed. Black women are supposed to exist only for carnal consumption and discard.Some believe we should be content with struggle love, eager to prove we’re “ride or die” for men who won’t return the loyalty. 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